You’ve finally got it figured out. You feel good, you look good, things are going well. You’ve read books on self-improvement, health, happiness and can check those off. You are becoming who you want and life is wonderful, beautiful and amazing. Then an emotional event or something occurs that throws you off and out of routine. Pretty soon you are two steps back, the guilt seeps in, frustration takes over and you’re flooded with feelings of failure because you have done this over and over. You are back on the roller coaster that seems to be a regular ride.
Why does this happen like a rollercoaster in life? Up, down, all around. Emotions, thoughts and feelings all over the place. I know it’s not just me, although I often feel that way. I’ve met with many woman who go through the same eating roller coaster. On the up we are doing well and feeling great; in control and making healthy choices and feel peaceful. On the down, there’s more sugar, more portions, less control = more guilt, frustration and less patience.
I’ve been on this roller coaster for most of my life but recently I thought I had it figured out. I’ve transformed in many aspects and KNOW HOW and WHAT to do. I have tools, not just mental and spiritual tools but tools to provide success with my eating- which I use regularly. For some reason I jumped back on the ride and the roller coaster continues. You know what I’m talking about right? When you worry a lot about what you can and can’t eat, how it will or won’t affect your body and that seems to consume your thoughts? Yeah, that’s where I’ve been AGAIN and I really don’t like it. Do you enjoy the ride? I can’t say that I do so here are a few things that I do to get me on solid ground again.
Call it what it is.
I know what is happening, it’s what has happened all along but unlit the past two months I didn’t recognize what it REALLY is. It’s the cunning devil. Seriously. Who else know knows how to make me frustrated, upset, insecure, think unkind things about myself and to think that food will make me happy. He does and he loves it because it takes away focus from happiness and good. If he can get me to ride the coaster and feel down about myself, stumble and fall then he is successful- misery loves company. So I call him out and change my focus.
Choose your ride.
To become grounded again these are a few tips that may help:
*Enjoy the moment. What is going on RIGHT NOW that I am loving and excited about? It may be that I got a killer work out in, maybe I had a great hair day or HOORAY I get to watch my kids in their athletics today and see how they have improved. Maybe it is the WHOLE bag of Cadbury Eggs that I somehow just ate…enjoy it and move on. Whatever it is, enjoy what is going on at that moment and be grateful.
*Recognize what is happening. I notice that I am thinking about myself, my body, food, how my clothes fit way too much and not in a positive way. I feel more emotional, stressed and frustrated. Is this me? Do I enjoy this? Is this happiness and what I want?
*Share your fall or frustrations with others. You’ll be amazed at the support you will get and the support you are to others.
*Relax and focus your attention on others. At this frustrating moment I realize that I am too focused on me. Once I begin serving others, focus on my kids, family, neighbors and less on my frustrations, I begin to forget myself and my problems. The coaster is coming to a stop for me to get off.
As a woman who craves balance, peace, “perfection”- the ups and downs drive me crazy so I seek solid ground as soon as I can. Life is a journey and I am working on enjoying it with more rides I choose and will enjoy.
What are some things you do when you find yourself out of balance?